Top 10 Things to Avoid to Save Your Marriage


This is a repost. I post this to remind myself of how to take care of my marriage. I hope you find this useful. Here's the link
One of the most delicate and beautiful relationships is marriage. So, even little things can break it. There are some things you should avoid to save your marriage from falling apart. It can be as simple as avoid arguing when either or both of you are angry. It will just make matters worse. Or never take each other for granted. These small things will make a big difference in your marital life. So, watch out and make changes to keep your marriage divorce-proof.
Top 10 Things to Avoid to Save Your Marriage
Avoid Not Talking to Each Other: Cutting all the communication is not the solution to a problem. Instead it is a sure-shot way to ruin your marriage. If you want to save your marriage, always keep the channels of communication open.
Avoid Being Selfish: Marriage is another name for accommodation. We don’t want you to compromise, but you need to adjust just a little with your partner. A relationship should be on equality and selfish attitude does not have any place in it.
Avoid too Much Criticism: Even constructive criticism should be used sparingly. If your partner’s weakness or habit is not threatening your marriage then don’t mention it. And never criticize your spouse in public.
Avoid Outside Interference: Your relationship is yours, do not allow a third party to interfere in it. Try to handle situation or any kind of problem yourself. Taking professional help is better than taking the help of your family and friends. They might give you a biased opinion.
Avoid Taking Each Other for Granted: Every little gesture counts in a relationship. Acknowledgment of things which the other does for the partner will work wonders for the marriage. Do not take such things lightly and appreciate them.
Avoid Nagging: Constant urging is the easiest way to ruin your marriage. Asking the partner to do something is a natural urge but one must know where to draw the line. Your spouse is an adult and knows how to handle a relationship.
Avoid a sexless marriage: Sex is not the only important element in a marriage. However, it is one of the crucial factors of a successful marriage. Take care that your physical union also has a place in your busy schedule.
Avoid restricting the other: Space is very much required in a marriage. You can save your marriage by not restricting your partner and giving freedom. Too many restrictions can make a relationship claustrophobic.
Avoid bringing past issues in the present: Everyone has a past and bringing it into the present can only make matters worse. Even when you argue take care not to broach any past mistake, fault or incident.
Avoid comparing the spouse to someone else: Your partner is a unique individual. Constantly comparing him/her to someone else will take a toll on your marriage. This will degrade your spouse. The best way to save your relationship is to love and accept the man/woman you married.
If you successfully avoid the above mentioned things then you can easily save your marriage from a downfall.

Ysabel's Chocolate Moist Cake


Life just got sweeter! I have been baking these past few days and I am trying to perfect my Chocolate Moist Cake. After a few  trial and error...I guess, finally I have my perfect chocolate moist cake.

Here is the recipe for a chocolate moist cake.

Chocolate Cake

Ingredients:

2 cups flour
2 cups sugar
1 T baking powder
3/4 cup chocolate powder
1 t. salt
1 cup shortening
1 cup buttermilk
1 cup brewed coffee
1 t. vanilla extracts
2 eggs

Procedures:

Preheat oven  to 350 degrees.

Grease cake pan. Sift the dry ingredients together in a bowl. Add the buttermilk, coffee, and shortening to the dry ingredients and mix for 2 minutes. Add the eggs, one at a time and the vanilla extracts. Bake for 20-30 minutes.

Ganache Frosting

Ingredients:

1 cup milk chocolate / bittersweet chocolate
1 cup heavy cream
1 cup unsalted butter

Procedures:

Combine chocolate and heavy cream  in a saucepan and stir until melted. 

Let it cool  for about an hour.

Beat butter until fluffy  then  add the chocolate mixture.

Frost your chocolate cake.